Philemon // The Radical Nature of Reconciliation // Pastor Jeremy Olfert
February 8, 2026
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Consider these questions when reflecting on this message:
In verses 8–9, Paul says that although he has the "right" to command Philemon, he prefers to appeal to him on the basis of love. In your own life, when you have the authority to demand something (as a parent, manager, or someone who has been wronged), how often do you choose a "gentle appeal" over a "command"? What would it look like to prioritize the relationship over your "rights" this week?
Paul mentions in verse 7 that Philemon "refreshed the hearts of the Lord's people". Think of a "Philemon" in your life—someone whose presence or hospitality leaves you feeling spiritually recharged. What specific, practical steps can you take to be an "oasis" for someone in your community who is currently weary or discouraged? Who has been that for you?
From "Useless" to "Useful": Verses 10–11 play on the name of the runaway slave, Onesimus, which means "useful." Paul notes that while he was once "useless," he is now truly "profitable". Is there someone in your life you have "written off" as useless or beyond change because of their past mistakes? How does remembering your own transformation in Christ challenge you to see their potential instead?
The Cost of Reconciliation": In verses 17–19, Paul offers to personally repay any debt Onesimus owes: "charge it to my account". True reconciliation often requires a "mediator" who is willing to absorb a cost—whether it’s time, money, or pride. Is there a broken relationship in your circle where you could step in as a peacemaker, and what "sacrifice" might that require of you?
In verse 6 Paul uses the word “sharing” and in verse 17 he uses the word “partner”. These words contain the root word, Koinonia. Do a word study of this greek word and consider; what do these words mean in their context? How can the church be a place where true “Koinonia” exists?